In a surprising twist at the family dinner table, a woman’s mother-in-law boldly takes charge, seizing not just her seat but also her carefully prepared plate. As the woman navigates this unexpected intrusion, a web of unanswered questions and tensions begins to unfold.
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On January 10, 2024, an anonymous female poster shared her story in Reddit’s “AITAH” forum. The Original Poster (OP) explained that she and her husband have been together for six years, with a total of four kids — two stepchildren aged 12 and 10 and two biological children aged nine and three months.
After giving birth, OP faced significant challenges with eating. Despite feeling hungry, the mere thought of consuming regular meals often triggered a sense of disgust and even nausea. Snacks like crackers or finger foods were manageable, but larger meals induced a sense of repulsion. OP estimated she only consumed about five hot meals in total since she gave birth to her daughter.
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She clarified that she had been in constant communication with doctors, monitoring her health and collaborating on a viable plan that would allow her to enjoy full meals once more. Nonetheless, she rarely partook in dinner, opting instead to prepare and plate meals for her husband and children, mostly leaving her own plate untouched.
Despite her husband’s awareness of her difficulty eating, he often insisted that she should eat, with OP even referring to his attempts to get her to finish a meal as “force feeding.” Despite the woman’s usual inability to stomach plates filled with food, she confessed that she could indulge every now and again. A day before sharing her narrative online was one of these rare occasions.
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Having texted her husband about making shepherd’s pie with an expressive “drooling emoji,” she pondered whether her omission of explicitly stating her intent to eat caused the misunderstanding. Hungry and eagerly anticipating dinner, she completed the cooking and called everyone to the table.
To her astonishment, while orchestrating the family gathering, her mother-in-law unexpectedly arrived, nonchalantly claiming OP’s seat and seizing the extra plate that she wanted to use. Overwhelmed, the woman found herself momentarily speechless, watching her MIL dive into the dish before her children had even been served — an act that stirred frustration within her.
Choosing not to voice her feelings in front of the kids, OP encouraged them to start eating. She retreated to cool off, leaving her husband to question her dinner plans in the aftermath of the unexpected family dinner disruption.
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As OP left the room, her stepson, realizing something was amiss, whispered to her husband, “[But] dad, I think mum was going to eat tonight.” Attempting to defuse the situation, her husband offered his food, saying, “[Babe], were you going to eat tonight? You can take my helping.” Still seething with anger, OP ignored him, smiling at her stepson and assuring him that “[It’s] fine.”
After her mother-in-law’s departure, OP’s husband emerged, seeking an explanation for the dinner table debacle. He casually suggested that she could have taken his meal, insisting it wasn’t a big deal.
Frustrated, OP snapped back, expressing her displeasure at his decision to invite his mom without consulting her about her hunger or plans for the evening. Pointing out her earlier text, complete with a drooling emoji, she emphasized her anticipation for the meal.
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In response, her husband, feeling dejected, remarked, “[Yeah], but you never eat! Now I feel like a [expletive] loser. Thanks,” before abruptly walking away. The exchange, unfortunately, wasn’t discreet, as their stepson overheard the conversation.
In a heartwarming gesture, the young boy approached OP, plate in hand, revealing that he had secretly saved some food for her. Touched by his kindness, OP couldn’t shake the feeling that, despite her valid frustration, she might be at fault.
The internal conflict left her questioning whether she had been inconsiderate, given her habitual avoidance of hot meals, and pondering the aftermath of the unexpected family dinner disruption. The lingering tension persisted, with OP grappling with the weight of her actions while her husband continued to sulk in the wake of the unsettling evening.
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Additionally, OP clarified that she had prepared dinner only for the expected individuals, including herself, despite her uncertain appetite. Her husband was aware of this routine, as there were never any leftovers. The offered portion from her stepson, albeit gracious, was minimal.
OP shed light on her mother-in-law’s habit of prioritizing adults when it came to meals, a practice her husband rarely contested. The strained relationship with her mother-in-law added a layer of complexity to the situation, with OP speculating that her MIL might not have cared about her desire to eat.
The seating disruption, where her mother-in-law claimed her seat, forced OP to leave the room. Despite her husband’s offer to share his portion, he remained seated, indicating his intent to eat regardless of his offer.
OP’s narrative gained traction online, and the prevailing sentiment among commenters was supportive, with the majority asserting that she was not in the wrong. “The fact that she just walked in sat down and started helping herself before the children were served is just rude [sic],” said one user.
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“Your husband feels like a loser because he acted like one. Who invites their mother over to eat their wife’s cooking without asking first. I mean really? I get we men can be clueless, but that brings clueless to a new level. Like caveman clueless. I wish I could introduce your husband to my wife. By comparison, I look absolutely civilized. NTA for sure,” suggested a second commenter.
“You are NOT the AH. Your husband should have never, ever invited anyone over without discussing it with you first. You just had a baby and are dealing with a lot!!! Be easy on yourself and see yourself how your sweet step son sees you 🌹 [sic],” noted yet another user.
In your opinion, was the woman right to hold her husband responsible for what happened? What would you do if you were in OP’s place?
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