Going through the results made him realize why his wife of twelve years resisted when he told her about his plans of buying the DNA kit.

At the time, he couldn’t understand why his wife was against it, and the curiosity made him take the test behind her back. The results revealed something he had never imagined.

OP (Original Poster) met his wife in high school and dated her until they married at 24. Four years later, his wife gave birth to two beautiful twins.

The man confessed he loved his wife and children very much. After meeting his wife, he had never considered dating another girl and believed she had the same feelings for him.

During the lockdown, OP was bored staying indoors, so he decided to buy an ancestry DNA testing kit. He thought it would be a fun activity for his 8-year-old twins.

However, when he told his wife about it, she insisted on not buying the kit because she thought it was a waste of money. OP found her resistance unusual, so he decided to go ahead with it behind her back. He was curious to know why she was not in favor of buying the DNA testing kit.

Two weeks later, he wrote another Reddit post to update the readers.

After seeing the results, he instantly realized why his wife was against him taking the test. The results showed he wasn’t the father of the twins. They belonged to someone else.

Feeling heartbroken and furious, he tracked the father of his kids. The man lived twenty blocks away from his house and shared the twins’ physical appearance and personality.

After learning the truth, OP moved in with a friend and turned to Reddit, asking other users how to deal with his twins. He felt they were the “true victims” of the entire situation. Anantha1996 suggested:

“Explain the situation as clearly as possible to them.”

Some Redditors also asked the man to consult a therapist before proceeding further. Two weeks later, he wrote another Reddit post to update the readers. He had discussed the case with his attorney and was ready to divorce his wife.

One day, he went to his house to collect some documents. He took a voice recorder with him to record evidence against his wife. He noticed that her car was missing from the driveway and he was glad that he wouldn’t have to interact with her. However, he was furious after seeing what was happening inside.

His twins were crying in the hallway and complaining that their mother left them because she was mad at them. They immediately hugged OP after seeing him enter the house and told him they thought he had abandoned them.

One of the twins took OP to the kitchen and pointed on the floor, telling him that their mother broke a glass while yelling at them and the shards hurt them. OP recalled:

“I could feel my heart splitting in two. Half of me wanted to flee from the scene with them and protect them while the other was worried about how the STBXW could twist this to make her a victim.”

He was sure his wife was not in her senses when she broke the glass, so he decided to keep the twins with him to protect them from getting hurt any further.

OP left the house after telling his children he would return soon. Then he called his wife and told her he wanted the twins to stay with him. In a slurred voice, she apologized to OP and accepted her mistake of cheating on her “perfect husband.”

Instead of entertaining her apology, OP focused on convincing her to let the kids stay with him, and he succeeded. The next day, he went to his old house with his friend, and his wife unexpectedly arrived there with the twins. She handed them to him and asked him when he would return home.

OP assumed his wife thought the kids would lure him into coming back home, but she had no idea that he knew who their father was and had begun filing for divorce.

A few days later, he contacted the kids’ father and asked him for more details about himself if he wanted to take the children. OP wouldn’t hand over the twins to him until he knew everything about the man.

“I know polygraph results aren’t always accurate, but it was the only thing I could think of at the time,” confessed OP. He asked the man to take a polygraph test, and he agreed.

Meanwhile, OP also took a paternity test to confirm that he was not their father. He felt hurt whenever the twins called him “dad” because it reminded him of the truth.

A week later, the twins’ biological father took the polygraph test. The results revealed that he wasn’t lying about his past and genuinely wanted to look after his children.

On the other hand, OP found out that his wife had checked into a rehabilitation center. He was relieved that her recovery would simplify handing over the divorce papers to her.

After everything else was sorted, OP was worried about telling his children everything. He felt they somewhat knew what was going on because they acted strangely. They clung to him more often and asked him if they were adopted.

Whenever OP asked them about their feelings, they ran away. OP felt they found it difficult to open up about their feelings, so he made an appointment with the therapist for them. He shared what happened next:

“I guess at some point, they couldn’t handle it and one of them came to me sobbing while I was asleep and just hugged me.”

OP immediately woke up and comforted his daughter. He asked her what happened but couldn’t understand what she said. It took him an hour to calm her down and comprehend her words.

It turned out that the little girl was trying to confess her feelings to OP. She told him that she heard her mother yell that OP should have been able to love his children instead of running away. Her words made the twins feel OP had abandoned them, but they knew all of it was false when they saw him return. OP added:

“My behavior during their time with me, however, must have made them concerned.”

The twins noticed that OP wasn’t hugging them frequently, and the piggyback rides had also stopped. He shared that he couldn’t be affectionate with the twins after discovering he wasn’t their father.

Originally, OP had planned to tell the kids about everything slowly, but now it seemed like they already knew half the truth. He took them for therapy and felt that was the best way to heal them.

Meanwhile, he had the divorce papers ready but was waiting to find out who would be financially responsible for the children. If it were the biological parents, that would mean his name would be off the birth certificate, and he couldn’t fight for their custody.

On the other hand, he wanted to have his own children, and he didn’t want to pay child support to his soon-to-be ex-wife all his life. He confessed he was confused between the two options. After reading OP’s post, _Dignity_ replied:

“Do whatever you need to do to get that woman completely off your back and out of your life.”

Meanwhile, EkBhaloCheleChilo suggested OP get primary custody of the twins because his wife wasn’t capable of looking after them. The Redditor also asked OP to share the financial burden with the biological father.

“Oh, the poor twins. Even though I understand your reasoning, I feel awful for the twins,” replied Date-Beautiful. Another Redditor named HungUpTheJersey understood OP’s pain and suggested a possible solution:

“I don’t know, maybe there’s a way that you could get 50/50 custody with your ex which means you wouldn’t have to pay child support.”

OP replied that he would figure something out with legal guidance. Meanwhile, other Redditors felt sorry for OP and shared their concerns in the comments section.

Questions to Ponder:

Do you think OP should request full custody of the twins?

A Redditor asked OP to take full custody of his twins, considering his wife’s addictions had worsened. However, OP didn’t want to become the primary caregiver because he wanted to have biological children. Do you think he should keep the children with him?

Do you think OP was being selfish?

OP felt terrible for the twins, but he didn’t want to keep them with him because they were not his. He stopped being affectionate towards them and was almost ready to hand them over to their biological father. Do you think he was being selfish? Was it right for him to feel that having biological children was better than looking after the twins he had already raised?